I Did My Time in the Jail of Your Arms

At some point after being dumped, you will be angry (and will experience many different kinds of anger).  I have covered that a little on the blog, but nothing quite captures the bitterness and ill will you feel toward the person for being so stupid as to dump you. YOU, of all people.  Doesn't he or she know that they will never find someone like you?  That it was them, not you, that is to blame for things ending?  That they will one day regret it, and realize that they have aged and lost the hope of finding another who will love them the way you once did?  That day can't come soon enough, as far as you are concerned.

Tom Waits' song "Who Are You?" is a great song for the dumped, a poison-tongued lament that tells his ex- that she is a cold liar who is incapable of loving anybody.  He wants her to take back all the lies he "believed so well," including her love itself.  He tells her that he did his time "in the jail of your arms," and now she should "get down on the floor / Don't you know this is war?"
 [Props to Any Major Dude With Half a Heart ]




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You're One of Them!

When you are in a relationship, you sometimes build an "us vs. them" kind of narrative; each of you acknowledges that the other person is the only one who really "gets" you.  This bond can be precious, and when you are knee-deep in shit, you can always look with comfort towards your relationship and your partner who will sympathize with you.  When they break-up with you, it feels like the deepest kind of betrayal.  They'll say they still love you or want to be friends, but you have been stung with the realization that they don't share the kind of bond you thought you had.

Enter Black Flag's "My War": "You say that you're my friend, but you're one of them!" 

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